Some of the shows on ABC’s “The Bachelor” and ABC’s “The Bachelorette” appear to be admissible curricular material for a psychology class teaching about personality disorders. Whether it’s Ashley Ebert’s encounter on ABC’s 2011 show “The Bachelorette” or ABC’s 2012 show “The Bachelor” where Jake Flajnik met his partner, viewers are getting the lowdown on what a narcissistic emotional abuser is. .
A contestant who made a statement on the 2011 season of “The Bachelorette” such as “I’d rather swim in a pool full of piss than…” behind the back of the woman he was competing with for attention. be easily identified as cold and insensitive. Many other descriptors are certainly applicable.
No difference compared to the 2012 season with Ben Flajnik when one of the contestants on national television refers to a fellow contestant as a stripper and home wrecker without any evidence to support the claim. This same contestant exhibited a cold and insensitive demeanor instead of empathy by making comments like “Who’s got the rose?” or in a different situation, “How did that taste come out of your mouth?”
Is the excuse of not receiving a manual on how to react or respond in a highly emotional situation acceptable? Season after season, loyal viewers of ABC’s “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” have seen dozens of highly stressed and emotional contestants without these contestants displaying cold and uncaring behaviors.
Statistically, if the prevalence rate of narcissistic personality disorder is 4%, or one in twenty-five, is it mathematically correct to say that every season we might suspect that there is a contestant exhibiting narcissistic symptoms and thus might become a narcissistic emotional abuser?
It seems that the two ABC shows mentioned above have hit the mark. The drama created by narcissistic personality disorder is entertaining if that is the kind of entertainment the viewer is looking for.
However, is this safe for “The Bachelorette” or “The Bachelor?” In case the narcissist is chosen and when negotiations and compromises within healthy relationships are required, what happens then?
The same venom of coldness and callousness of heart that took place behind the scenes of “The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” will be hit head-on by the unexpected. The dangerous twist is how calculated and calibrated the narcissist is with his coldness and callousness.
“The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” will no longer be confused by wondering who they should believe when others report the narcissist’s behaviors to them. They will now be confused first hand by the discrepant messages given by the narcissist in everyday life.
One moment the unexpected will be brought to the heights of emotional bliss and the next moment it will be plunged into the depths of human pain. If “The Bachelorette” or “The Bachelor” have increased financial success in their lives, there will be a game in that realm too.
Viewers of ABC’s “The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” are being entertained. They are also being educated about the behaviors of a narcissistic emotional abuser.
Right before the eyes of the viewer and contestant, the games of a narcissistic emotional abuser are played out. The narcissist’s behaviors make no sense, leaving everyone with negative feelings of disbelief and anxiety in their stomachs.
As a viewer of ABC’s “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette,” would you rather be entertained with or without being educated on what a narcissistic emotional abuser is?
If you choose to be entertained without the drama and emotional pain created by narcissistic emotional abusers, perhaps a simple psychological test that identifies people with personality disorders could be implemented in the selection process for future contestants on ABC’s “The Bachelor.” and “The Bachelorette.”
Then you could experience positive emotions while enjoying watching how the feelings of love evolve between two human beings. Positive feelings that come with the hope that two humans have found lasting love.
After all, isn’t that why you choose to watch a show titled “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette”?