One of the hardest things about male chastity is getting your man to stop coming.
John, my husband and I have found an easy way to do this.
First comes the strategy, and then there are specific tactics within the strategy.
The strategy is easy: He found that it’s easier for him not to orgasm when he imagines it as a ‘cliff’ he’s going to fall off.
And once you know where that ‘edge’ is, then it’s much easier to walk away from it (obviously); but it is also easier to avoid with a rear edge.
That is In fact important because it means that we can make love and play for a long time without having to worry that he is too aroused to continue without having an orgasm.
The trick (he says) is knowing how to find the edge, recognize it when it approaches, and not fly over it in your excitement.
So now we come to orgasm denial tactics.
Remember: the point of ‘no return’ is the edge.
So as he gets closer, he mentally maps her orgasm and how far away she is from him on a path to the edge of the cliff. You literally see this road in his mind and imagine yourself walking down it.
Now, if you’re going to ask me exactly how he does this, I can’t answer because I’m not in his head.
But that’s how he describes it to me and I can say two things for sure:
- it takes practice. And you better err on the side of ‘safety’.
- Works. The chances of John coming when he’s not supposed to are very slim right now. This is a Good Thing, for two reasons: first, we can have a lot more fun and do more without worrying; and secondly, it makes my taunting of him that much more worthwhile because I can push him harder.
- Since we transitioned to a completely female-led relationship… John has the added incentive of knowing that I will punish him if he comes without my permission, either with a hard beating on the bench I made him build for that purpose, or a whole night kneeling by the bed strapped to his knee. – post that I also made him do, while I sleep.
By working as a team, and with that added incentive, it’s possible for me to push it to that limit and come back again and again before calling it a day.
And like everything, the more you do it, the better you’ll get at it.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that all or even most of the fun of chastity is in the tease and denial, because if you’re not serving your desires and worshiping your body, then you’re missing out on some of the most important things. . exquisite torture you can imagine.
My favorite quickly became his wearing a strap-on – it’s almost as good as the real thing, and certainly good enough for long-term orgasm denial. He doesn’t get the same amount of teasing or teasing as when I let him make love to me, and there’s virtually no chance of him coming without my permission (because then he would have to punish him, of course). career).
Bottom line: your man does it No need for orgasm
He may want to do it, and there are reasons you can sometimes allow it (and some devilish ways to do it for him), but when it comes down to it, he doesn’t. need to orgasm, ever.
This is what John and I are after, and we are both very excited about the whole thing.
No date yet, but we’re getting close to some odds.
One thing to be careful about is not to set your expectations too high and think that both of you are going to get it right the first time. We have been in the chastity lifestyle for 13 years, and John swore an oath of allegiance to me in April 2019, so it takes practice and patience.
Don’t be fooled by the hype and hogwash you’ve no doubt already encountered on the internet. If it sounds unreal, it probably is.