Are you caught up in divorce indecision and feeling lost, confused and like your life is falling apart right before your eyes? I was there too, and not only did I survive the ordeal, but I was stronger after I got through it.
I have never been accused of being overly sympathetic to those who suffer from chronic misfortune in their lives because I believe we manifest most of the bad luck we encounter through our own destructive thought patterns.
Divorce, however, is complicated because it involves two human beings and one of them is often much more at fault than the other. The problem is that that fact doesn’t really matter because both of you are going to suffer the consequences of the divorce and it’s usually the party with the “better” lawyer, and I use that term lightly, who walks away with less emotional and financial trouble. bruises
If I had done things differently when I was making the decision of whether or not my relationship was really over and whether or not I should file for divorce, it would have been to hire a professional counselor to guide me through the transition.
I made many financial mistakes due to emotions, ignorance and indecision. A counselor will work with you one on one, really listening and evaluating everything he says to offer constructive feedback and guidance. They know divorce proceedings as well as potential relationship remedies that you may not have been aware of.
I would have sought a divorce myself, but would have tried to convince my ex-husband to use divorce mediation instead of hiring divorce attorneys. Ending a twelve-year marriage was sad, but the financial devastation both myself and my ex experienced at the hands of selfish lawyers and unnecessary court proceedings magnified our misery a hundredfold and shaped our barren financial landscape going forward.
Right now, I’m sure most people reading this article are feeling one of two ways:
One, you are not happy with your current relationship and are seriously considering whether you should stay and work things out or move on and call it quits.
Or two, you’ve already made the decision to end your marriage, and you want some sort of confirmation that you’ve made the right decision.
A professional counselor can certainly help you with both of these questions, but at $75-$100 per session, it certainly isn’t cheap. Add in the fact that if you’re like most couples in unhappy relationships, money is most likely what you’re fighting about and is often the cause of your marital unhappiness, chances are you just can’t afford it. the $300-$600 per month this could end up costing you anyway.
It’s hard to put a price on happiness or even make an accurate guess at how much a counselor might save you in the end, but if he does nothing more than convince both of you to seek divorce mediation, it will be thousands of dollars up front in attorney fees alone. lawyers saved. The devastating financial cost of a divorce is often the reason most divorces turn so ugly and both parties resent it for years…sometimes at the expense of their children. There is another option…