They left you, right? Hey, it’s all part of the dating game. Even the best of us get knocked off our horses a few times… it’s how quickly you get back on the horse that really matters.
Losing a girl you’re still in love with is like taking a punch to the soul. You hurt, you cry, you do all kinds of desperate things… all in the name of love. What you’re really doing here, though, is shooting yourself in the foot, because when is it about getting your girlfriend back? Is only as easy as you make it.
Below are 7 important secrets that will help you and your ex girlfriend get back together. Why are they secret? Because if you examine these behaviors and actions, you will find that they are the exactly the opposite what most people do after a breakup. Translation: very few people know how to walk the right path.
Accept and agree to the breakup
Without a doubt, your first step is always the same: to agree with your ex’s decision to break up with you. Why agree? Two reasons, actually. First of all, your ex girlfriend is not going to be dissuaded from breaking up with you right now, no matter what you say or do. Second, because it is the the last thing your girlfriend expects you to do.
By agreeing with her decision to end things, you are basically breaking up with her as well. You are rejecting your girlfriend at the same time that she rejects you; this will confuse her at first and then annoy her.
“Why is he unhappy? How come he’s not even trying to fight to keep us going?” -As these thoughts rumble through your girlfriend’s head, she will immediately start questioning herself about all the different things. Very simply, you have just done something extremely important: you planted the seeds of doubt In his mind.
Walk away like you don’t care
After they drop you off, it’s time to smile and walk away. Don’t chase, beg, call, stalk, text, email, or tearfully beg your girlfriend to take you back… those things will always KILL your chances of winning her over. Instead, the best thing to do is walk away as if the breakup doesn’t bother you one bit.
Your ex will not only be taken aback by your lack of concern for what just happened, but they will also respect you for not falling apart. How could your girl respect you after seeing you cry and begging her not to break up with you? The answer, of course, is that she can’t.
Completely disappear from your ex’s radar
Not calling or contacting your ex girlfriend is one thing… completely disappearing from her life is another. It is vital that you stay away from everything that has to do with your ex girlfriend, in order to make her start missing you again.
Getting out of sight includes not having Facebook, MySpace, hanging out with shared friends, or going to common places where you know your ex might be. Your girlfriend must turn around to see where you are and find absolutely nothing there. This will help her imagine the worst: that you have moved on with your life without her.
Working ON Yourself… FOR Yourself
You’ll read a lot of breakup advice telling you to work out, get muscular, look good, and completely surprise your ex girlfriend the next time she sees you. And while this is good advice, it’s just as important that you do these things for the right reasons.
Losing weight, getting a tan, buying new clothes… all these things are external. They are great confidence boosters and will definitely help grab her ex girlfriend’s attention in very positive ways when it’s time to see her again. By all means, do them.
At the same time, however, you need to do these things to your, and not just for the sake of getting your girlfriend back. By maintaining a positive frame of mind and working towards these goals, you are mentally strengthening yourself in a very good way. The confidence, security, motivation, and energy provided here will go a long way in building charisma, another great thing you can have while trying to get your ex to date you again.
Refuse contact and do not extend the break
Sometimes a girl will call you after the break up to continue fighting with you. She’s not interested in getting back together, but she’ll still be interested in blaming. This is not what you want, so you should avoid it.
By not taking your ex’s calls, emails, or texts, you continue that mysterious silence that will drive her so crazy. At this moment, your ex wants to know that you are home alone, you miss her and you are desperately waiting by the phone. By NOT being there when the phone rings, you are actually undermining your ex girlfriend’s resolve.
Also, avoiding all contact? You’re also preventing the continuation of any fights or disputes the two of you may have gotten into during the breakup. Your silence speaks volumes… your maturity level is high… the respect your ex has for you skyrockets and getting her back becomes much easier.
Go out and have the time of your life
What is the best way to make your ex girlfriend jealous? Living your life to the fullest… without her in it.
The sooner you can get back out there, the better off you’ll be. Get some friends, see some family… you can even start dating another girl if you’re up for it. All of these actions let your ex know that you’re not sitting around waiting for her like a lost puppy. They also send another message: life goes on without you.
When your ex girlfriend sees you having a good time without her, she will get jealous. They were moments when you used to share, and she imagined herself as a big part of your happiness. Now that she sees that you can be happy without her? She will wonder if maybe your were a big part of its happiness. Maybe she needs you more than you need her… and this will lead, once again, to your ex questioning the decision to end her relationship.
Know exactly when to reconnect with your ex girlfriend
So… how long should you wait before calling your ex girlfriend? Big question. But even better than that, what if there was a way to make me call you?
Reopening the lines of communication is one of the last steps necessary to win your ex back. You have to do it at exactly the right time and with the right opening moves. Making a misstep at this point could send you back to the start, so you have to be very careful.
For this reason, you must have a step by step plan. You can’t reverse your breakup by simply picking up the phone and letting the chips fall where they may – you’re going to look and sound pretty dumb unless you know exactly what you’re doing.